one lonely success

i am always amazed at how one’s perspective can completely alter one’s interpretation of reality and forever alter the way we judge each other. before you argue that you don’t judge people, stop—you most definitely do. in fact, it is your judgements that shape your perceptions and it those very same judgements that define the reality that you call home. the little place in your mind where you go to feel safe and comfortable is dictated by your feelings of self which is a mere reflection of the judgments you make of others.

take this little blog for example. its collective works represent nothing more than a fraction of myself. however to you, the reader, my words paint the picture i want you to see. in this forum, i dictate your perception and, in turn, lead you to judgment. this phenomenon is enhanced if you know me only through my web address. if for you, there is no difference between jeff carter and jeffcarter.net then you may find that your perceptions and the reality you’ve created for me are riddled with fallacies.

but isn’t that the point? whether the words i put up for public consumption and dissection reflect true-self or rather my intended perception-of-self, is irrelevant. the importance is that unlike any other forum, i, the biographer, get to tell you the story that i either want you to know or that you need to hear.

whether i speak of god and angels or saints and sinners, relaying one’s feelings, beliefs or emotions in a one-dimensional forum has its inherrent evils. i become relegated to 200 word blog entries and cleverly placed hyperlinks. in doing so, i allow you the reader to leap to assumptions and their respective conclusions. but the beauty of the medium is that i lead each of you to the assumption that i want you to make.

in the end, so much of what i do here is purely for self and i’m just using all of you as my sounding board and i’m glad you’re here to listen.